Happy Monday guys!

This week, we're starting off strong with a bit of a "touchy" subject. So, trigger warning, this post talks about vaginas, sexual health (and sex) and things inside vaginas... And humans inside vaginas, too (as in, giving birth - ha!). So be warned, and keep reading if you're into it!

First things first... If you have no idea what Kegel exercises are and you're just looking at that picture, you're probably thinking they're sex toys. Nope, they aren't. But they DO have something to do with vaginas. And these little pink egg-like things are not sex toys... They're actually just weights. Think of them as dumbbells for your vag. Yep, you've read that right!

Let's back up about 2 footsteps: KEGELS. WTF are they? They're the exercises that strengthen the pelvic floor muscles. They're named after Arnold Kegel, the gynaecologist who invented them.

Basically, strong pelvic floor muscles are important for a plethora of things. Here are my 3 favourite ones:

  • Preventing incontinence and bladder issues.

  • Making you "tight" down there.

  • Giving you longer, better, stronger orgasms.

Is that enough? I think so. I mean, what's not to like, amirite? Before getting to what these little sperm-shaped little eggs are, I actually wanna go a little deeper into each point.

Incontinence & Bladder Issues

This might not seem like a huge issue if, like me, you're in your twenties and you've never had a baby. But know that one of the common issues reported by pregnant women is actually urine leakage. Yep, being pregnant can make you piss your pants. (Writing this made me feel SO classy, it's unreal.) Also, after having a baby, lots of women say that a few drops of urine "escape" when they laugh really hard or sneeze. Not an ideal situation, if you ask me.

I'm obviously making a little fun here, because that's just what I do. But there's absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about, and it's actually a super common thing. It's just the way the body is made, and it's part of the ageing process. But the good news is that Kegel exercises can actually help prevent that. So hold the adult diaper for a second, thanks!

Vaginal Tightness

This subject is often frowned upon because it's often inaccurately associated with the amount of sex a woman is having. I mean, we've all heard the stereotype of "sluts" being "loose" down there. Just in case it's not clear enough, I'm only paraphrasing. This myth is exactly just that: a myth.

That being said, a few things (like childbirth) can weaken the pelvic floor muscles and give that "stretched out" feeling. Even before childbirth, I feel like it's always a plus to be as tight as possible down there. Anyone else?

Since the vagina is a muscle, you can make it stronger just the same way you'd do with your abs or biceps: with exercise. Kegel exercises, that is.

Better Orgasms

The thing about strong pelvic floor muscles that makes the vagina feel tighter, is actually the better ability to contract them. Just like with flexing your abs. That will obviously feel really good during sex for you and your partner.

But that's not all. Exercising your pelvic floor muscles on the reg will also increase blood flow in that area, which can lead to more intense orgasms, multiple orgasms and just better overall sex. Do I have your attention now?

This part is not only true for women. Men can also do pelvic floor muscle exercises, leading to results like stronger erections and more control over ejaculation.

Still here? Good!

Now that we've established that pelvic floor muscles are very much necessary, let's talk about how to get there.

Kegel exercises are the solution and the basics are really easy to do. Basically, you just contract your pelvic floor muscles for 5 seconds, then release for 5 seconds. Contract, release. Contract, release... That's it. 5 minutes a day, easy peasy.

If you don't know where your pelvic floor muscles are, it's also super easy to find them. Just pretend there's something falling out of your vagina and you're trying to suck it back in by clenching. You might feel like your anus is also contracting, which is totally normal, as pelvic floor muscles also impact that... Region. Graphics much? You're welcome.

If that doesn't work, you can also try to stop the urine flow while you're peeing, it uses the same muscle.

Personally, I like to do my Kegel exercises right before my daily 10-minute workout, while I'm stretching. That way, I'm sure not to forget, because I included it in another daily routine. If you don't workout everyday or if you're afraid to forget, there's a multitude of apps on the app store. I've heard great things about Kegel Camp from Dr. Emily Morse, who hosts the genius podcast Sex with Emily. It's a paid app (1.99$) but I feel like 2$ for dry pants and multiple orgasms is pretty damn cheap.

Then, if you wanna step things up a notch, this is where these little weights come in. You just insert one before doing your Kegel exercises, and then take them out. Super easy and simple. I ordered THESE from Amazon, and they're one of the most basic and simple ones out there, but I love them. Here's why:

They're made out of soft silicone. I wanted jade or rose quartz eggs at first, but I changed my mind when I started reading about it. I saw that the 2 main complaints about the stone ones were that they're really cold when you insert them (ugh!) and they sometimes crack. Which can be dangerous and makes them much harder to clean properly. These are silicone, so they're super soft and comfortable. Also, because of their, hum, intimate use, it's not something I will want to keep for years and years. With the low price point of these, I won't feel guilty replacing them regularly.

There's 2 difficulty levels. The heavier the weight, the harder the exercise. This set has 2 different weights so you can increase the difficulty as you progress. It's great if you like challenging yourself and outdoing your own performance.

I also love that they're visually appealing with their soft, unthreatening appearance and light pink shade. (But they're also available in black or bright pink.) I won't lie, I leave them on the vanity most of the time and they don't clash next to my beauty products and facial massagers.

There are a few more things I have to say about these:

Always make sure to wash them before and after using them. I feel like this goes without saying, but I had to.

Always use a water-based lube to slide them in, or you're gonna hurt yourself. (No silicone-based lubes, they don't go well with silicone products.)

Also, some studies show that "wearing" these around for too long isn't good. Basically, if you leave them in all day, your vagina will be constantly contracting to hold them in. Which can actually have the opposite effects on your pelvic floor muscles, because they're supposed to contract and release. Not just continuously contract for hours. That's why I just "wear" mine for my Kegel exercises and then take them out.

Lastly, I don't think I need to tell you that I'm not a doctor. I'm sharing this because I love it and use it, and it works for me. But I'm not way telling you that you should do, or have to do the same thing I do. As with before implementing any substantial changes to your diet or lifestyle that can have an impact on your health, you should ask your doctor.

That's all for Kegel exercises and these little weights. Hope you enjoyed this post, and hope it brought a little light to Kegels and what they're good for. Training that muscle is so important and often forgotten. I personally love including it in my workout, that I see like my body's maintenance.

Let me know if you guys do Kegels, or if you use any device to help. If you have any additional tips and tricks, I would also love to hear them. Leave me a comment below, or hit me up on Instagram.

Have a great week!

Jenny xx