THE PERFECT FALL WEDDING GUEST MAXI DRESSES + WEDDING GUEST STYLE ETIQUETTE (AKA What NOT To Wear)
This Summer, we went to Montreal for a special wedding, and 3 days before the big day, I started freaking out because I didn’t have a dress to wear. I’m pretty much always at the last minute, so it wasn’t that unexpected (lol) but it still was nerve-racking. Especially since I feel like dressing for someone else’s wedding can be SO hard. You don’t want to wear white, you want to be appropriate, without outdoing the bride (although I doubt that’s even possible) but you still want to be beautiful because you know there’s going to be tons of pictures… Basically, finding a wedding guest dress can be a bit of a puzzle.
And if I base myself on the TONS of questions regarding wedding guest dresses I see on Facebook, I would say a lot of you probably agree. I swear, one day can’t go by without someone I know posting a picture of a dress and asking “Is this too white for a wedding?”. And honestly, as much as I agree that it’s better to ask than be sorry, I can’t help but to roll my eyes every time. Girl, if you have to ask…
But in the name of science (or wtv we’re doing here), I asked the bride at the wedding if she would care if someone wore white, and she simply said “no, as long as no one else is wearing a wedding dress”. I also heard tons of bride say that they don’t remember what anyone wore to their wedding because they were too busy enjoying it, which is amazing - that would also probably be my style.
BUT, out of the millions of dress options out there and out of the 365 days of the year, do you REALLY have to wear your favourite white dress on the day of someone else’s wedding? My guess is, probably not. And while I’m a huge advocate for wearing whatever YOU want and whatever makes YOU comfortable on any other day, just remember that the bride and groom are shelling out pretty decent loads of money on this day, and they don’t need you to stand out like a sore thumb on every single group picture just because you couldn’t be bothered to be respectful to a minimum.
Really though, it’s not that hard. I always try to remind myself that other people’s weddings aren’t MY special day, and I try to dress accordingly. To me, that basically just means asking myself the following questions:
Would I wear this to a club in Vegas? If the answer is yes, then I don’t wear it. Patricia’s 86yr old grandma doesn’t need to see my tits and ass at her grand-daughter’s wedding. I know I’ll have plenty of other opportunities to wear my super short, deep V, skin-tight dresses anyways.
Do I look like I’m trying to be a bride? This should be a no-brainer, but I shit you not, someone recently told me about a girl who showed up to someone’s wedding wearing a WHITE CHIFFON BALL GOWN. Like, just no. Seriously though, f*ck off.
Am I trying to upstage J-Lo at the Grammy’s? Once again, this isn’t your day. You didn’t win an Oscar, people are not coming to see you. So keep the stunning high-slit, shoulder padded red gowns and the floor-length gold sequin numbers in your closet until Christmas or something.
Now that that’s out of the way, let’s talk about that dress for a second. 3 days before the wedding, my mom wore this dress and I immediately asked her where she got it. Obviously, to make things a little harder for me, she told me she made it herself. I was crushed. I was going to borrow it for the wedding, but then it was like… 8 sizes too big for me, lol. Since it’s a wrap dress, it was easy-ish to make it work for pictures, but it was obviously too big in person, so I had to wear something else. But then I got to thinking, a chic wrap dress is the perfect thing to wear for a wedding (unless maybe it’s black-tie). It’s beautiful but not over-the-top, it can be super chic if it’s the right fabric, you can eat in it and it’ll still look flattering, you can dance comfortably. What’s not to like? For this shoot, I wore it with my white cowboy boots, but I would swap those for strappy sandals for a wedding, obviously.
Here are 16 maxi dresses that I think would be chic enough for a wedding:
What do you guys think? Would you wear a maxi wrap dress to a wedding? What are some no-go’s in your book when it comes to wedding guest attire? Hit me up ladies!! ;)
P.S. I’m wearing the Colourpop “Give It To Me Straight” eyeshadow palette on the eyes.